Do you suffer from “silver lining syndrome?”

I just saw a tweet on Twitter that said something like, “Always look for the good in every bad situation.”

Usually, a good piece of advice rings in my spirit, but this piece of advice rubbed me the wrong way just a bit.

Here’s why…

Sometimes a bad situation can’t be avoided. No matter how hard you try, there’s just no way around it but through it. In that case, try to find the silver lining in the cloud of the situation.

However…

There are other bad situations that can be avoided and we keep finding ourselves mired in them, because we haven’t realized that we need to [or don’t care to] take an alternate route out of those situations.

This is when mediocrity and complacency set in. We just keep dealing with the bad because we suffer from what I call “silver lining syndrome.” Instead of trying to better our plight, we start with the”it could be worse” or “at least” statements. You know what I’m talking about:

  • The landlord won’t fix the ceiling, but it could be worse. At least I’m not homeless.
  • My boss is belligerent towards me and never considers all the hard work I put in, but it could be worse. At least I have a job.
  • This is the third time this week I’ve had to leave the house with a black eye, but it could be worse. At least he’s not beating the children.
  • She’d rather run the streets with her friends, instead of being home with me and the kids, but it could be worse. At least she does her cheating in secret.
  • and so on…

NO! Uh-uh.

There are situations in this life that we have to deal with, and we should definitely try to find the positive or good in those situations.

Things we don’t have to deal with, but we deal with them because we don’t want to muster the strength or courage to effect the type of change in our lives that would remove us from the hassle, is an indication that we suffer from “silver lining syndrome.”

My motto: It’s not always easy, but it’s usually simple.

True, a simple solution isn’t always the easiest one to implement, but it needs to be implemented, nonetheless.

Stop putting up with nonsense that you don’t have to put up with.

Another one of my mottos: DO IT SCARED!

Bravery and courage don’t mean you’re not terrified as you do it. Bravery and courage mean you won’t let your fear get the best of you. They mean you value yourself enough to move through your fear to that better thing that’s on the other side of it.

Simply put, there are times when you should be looking for the silver lining in the cloud of the situation. However, if you find that most things or everything is bad, but you keep looking for the good in it all, then you suffer from “silver lining syndrome,” and you need to make some changes.

These may not be changes you can make on your own, so don’t be afraid to reach out to a family member or a friend. You may even find that you need a mental health professional or a lawyer. Whatever the case may be, do it!

Here’s the thing…

Life will be so much brighter once that cloud is gone. A silver lining will never shine as brilliantly as the unobstructed face of the sun.

 

3 thoughts on “Do you suffer from “silver lining syndrome?””

  1. I always think of a line from the movie called SUNDAY, BLOODY SUNDAY in which a woman having an affair says, “I used to think that half a loaf was better than nothing and now I know that sometimes nothing is better.” (I am quoting from memory.) But it seems like people let inertia take over when they know they should move on, act on, or simply refuse….

  2. I couldn’t agree with you more. I’ve always heard, “God can turn every bad situation into something good.” But if the individual is constantly in the same bad situation, playing the same old victim role…God may just let it slide hoping that will teach the lesson. I don’t want to get too theological here…but.

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